I unfollowed the Chelsea team on IG and I knew I was over him

DISCLAIMER: This is not an inspirational or an uplifting post or something like that on how to get over your ex.

Tell me something; how did you know you were over your ex? Getting over an ex is not as easy as drinking gin and tonic. It wasn’t easy for me brethren.

Without airing much of my dirty laundry uSis wenu (your sister; and that is me) was in a relationship, my longest in 25 years of my existence. Do you want to know how it ended? I will tell you anyway… I was ghosted! A whole me. Yea I know you’re thinking who would ghost this pretty lil thang?! I wouldn’t even dream of it…I can’t blue tick myself *I digress*

The relationship became a whirlwind and we both contributed our fair share to it, but I think I contributed like 1% to the whole thing hehehe. Long story short, I ghosted back lol. Okay that’s not a thing but what I mean is this time I didn’t bother myself to find out what had been the problem (obviously you can’t ghost for a just nje or can you?). I was already a girl dealing with a break up, although we hadn’t said that to each other…which we did later on. It was important to officialize it.

In between endless voice notes to close friends (shout out to you guys!) and personal inquisitions I went through a push and pull experience. I was proud of myself for getting out but at the same time was he going to come back and we fix things, because I low key wanted that too. See the confusion one goes through when they are shopping at Khothama and you see a lot of great things but the budget ayivumi (doesn’t allow) and you don’t know what to get or leave? I was going through something like that. The brain was willing but the heart wasn’t or the heart was the one willing not the brain? I just know there was contradiction.

Fast forward many months later I am over the whole thing… It doesn’t hurt or make me sad anymore when I think about it, just grateful for the whole thing. There is always something positive to come out with in situations and I did. How did I get over him? I guess time and understanding why I actually was getting out and why it was important for me. We are both cool people, just not cool together.

It was only recent (like 2 weeks back lol) that I got to tell my family but they obviously already knew. But I had to publicly announce, the same way I did when I announced about the relationship. I held a family meeting to announce at home and by family I just mean my sisters and son. Never introduce your partners to your family, I AM JOKING – that is a very important thing to do actually. Soooo unfollowing Chelsea on Instagram amongst other things was one of the ways I knew I was over him lol. I still like the Chelsea team by the way but I will just practice social distancing from it. It was one of OUR things, not MINE. A special shout out to Kante and Willian!

If you want to shoot your shot, don’t! Allow me to breathe please…

To sign out, put your right hand over your chest and let’s sing the Chelsea anthem; shall we?

Blue is the colour, football is the game

We’re all together, and winning is our aim

So cheer us on through the sun and rain

‘Cause Chelsea, Chelsea is our name

Here at the Bridge whether rain or fine

We can shine all the time

Home or away, come and see us play

You’re welcome any day

(Ayyy)

Blue is the colour, football is the game

We’re all together, and winning is our aim

So cheer us on through the sun and rain

‘Cause Chelsea, Chelsea is our name

Come to the she’d and we’ll welcome you

Wear your blue and see us through

Sing loud and clear until the game is done

Sing Chelsea everyone.

(Ayyy) [Source: Lyrics Freak]