My short lived and failed online dating experience

Hi,

It only took me one try to know that online dating is not my cuppa tea. And maybe I am at fault for trying something I had no idea about.

A likkle background, I had been in a relationship and it happened that we had a fall out and I was ghosted so that kind of ghosting ended up seeming like a break up. You can ghost for so long until it feels like a breakup. If you read here, you will know I have had my fair share of being ghosted. Call me spoko.

So, during that time (which lasted 4 months by the way) I decided to date someone, I mean its only fair. Let’s call the guy X. I don’t remember how X and l got to talking but it was via Instagram. X is a blogger, a great one at that and at that time I was already a blogger; just not a consistent one.

X and l hit it off and it was awesome. You know that thrill of a new relationship? Texting non-stop, Calling and video calling non-stop, telling each other sweet somethings? Yeah, that was us. At that time I wasn’t even feeling the distance. Mind you, X resides outside Africa and our chances of meeting anytime soon; were non-existent.

Then uGuy plays the future card. He starts talking about the future. Don’t get me wrong, having a guy who includes you in his future plans is cool and all but you can’t be saying that shit within two minutes of mjolo particularly if we are online dating – seemed fake to me but we move.

All we had between us were texts, phone and video calls; that’s it. No meeting up and going on dates and all of that nonsense. It was okay until I felt he was coming on too strong and what ended up annoying me the most were unscheduled video calls. Its only fair that you let me know if you want us to have a session. I mean video call session.

I understand that maybe the constant nagging, because that’s honestly what it felt like, was because of the distance but hebana! let a girl know. Its not that I will be doing anything out of the way, or maybe I will be lol, but seriously, my day does not entail me answering your video calls.

So fast forward, it got to a point where I felt like all I had to do was talk to him every second of the day and that was not going to work. It got tiring and boring. With online dating you have hope that at some point, the connection will lead to an in-person meeting; I wasn’t getting that. So that was enough for me to keep my distance…it wasn’t worth it.